“ To be, or not to be” is the opening phrase of a soliloquy spoken by Prince Hamlet in the so-called “nunnery scene” of William Shakespeare’s play Hamlet. … Even so, Hamlet seems to consider himself alone. Are you alone? Do you see yourself walking the lonely path with no support? Do you feel as if you are not going to get to where you need to be? To achieve what you have set your mind to? To accomplish the goals you have set up? Just take a moment and think about this ….
What do Susan Boyle, Paul Potts and JK Rowlings have in common? Well, they are all British and their success did not come overnight. They weren’t lucky enough to have instant fame and recognition in the spotlight. In fact, when Susan and Paul walked out on the stage of Britain’s got Talent, people looked at them and thought, what now? They didn’t look the part or dress the part yet ….. when they started to sing, everything changed.
Paul went on to win Britain’s got Talent in 2007 and Susan in 2009. Both of them were bullied at school and yet despite that, they both won one of the biggest shows in the world.
JK Rowling as you know, won her fame from the Harry Potter series – she also did not have a very happy childhood.
“The soul is placed in the body like a rough diamond and must be polished or the lustre of it will never appear” – Daniel Dafoe
You may be frustrated with yourself, disillusioned, down in the dumps, but you know what? Everyone I have met is absolutely unique and extraordinary. And yes, you are one of those people. Hidden deep down inside of you, and everyone else, is the human spirit. That is your diamond and it is always there. YOU are a unique individual! If we were all the same, just imagine how boring this world would be.
For many of us, times can be tough. And it is during those times, that we can fully appreciate our capacity for endurance and how bright our spirit can be. So we need to polish that diamond within us all the time. No one else can, only YOU! So how can you move forward ?
Know what you want
You have a talent and you are dying to express and develop it. You know what you would like to be doing. Perhaps you want to be happier, want to communicate better with others or you want to have more fulfilment in the workplace.
Wishing or thinking about it is not going to make it happen. You need to have such a strong conviction that you can base your life on it. Go with your gut feel.
For years I always wanted to work for myself – I wanted to go into training and speaking full time. Oh and there were many times I doubted it would ever happen – I was scared to take the leap of faith – I worried about financial security. Many, many thoughts went through my mind and I just never got round to doing it. And then I was retrenched!
That was the kickstart I needed to get my act together and I had to take that leap of faith and get out there and just do it.
Do what you intend to do
Nurture your vision every day. See, feel, hear how you experience fulfilment of the life you want. Use your imagination – dream it, believe it, achieve it!
Close your eyes and imagine where you dream or envision yourself to be – where would you be? What would you be doing? What would you be feeling in that moment?
You need to believe in what you want to do because if you don’t, no matter what hurdles are on the path you will see them as a permanent block. A positive and confident person sees those hurdles as a hiccup, a mound to step up and over, and carry on. No matter what hurdles you face, stay focused on your goal, on your dream – the light is there at the end of the tunnel and as you get closer to is, it gets bigger and bigger – it never dies.
Practice your passion
If you have a talent – keep working on it. If you want to be happier, do things that make you happy. Be willing to learn, practice, improve and make mistakes from time to time. Yes, make those mistakes. That is your learning curve, your hiccup – your intention will speak volumes.
You want fulfilment? Adjust your attitude. I have seen what happens to someone who continually moans, complains, always sees themselves as the victim and is never happy. Moan, moan, moan. That is not a nice person to be around – they alienate everyone close to them – don’t be that person.
“Nothing will work unless YOU do. Illuminate! – Maya Angelo
If you don’t make it happen, no one else will. If you want to see change, you need to start with the change. If you want to communicate better, you need to start changing the way you communicate. If you want fulfilment, you need to start by doing something for others and putting a smile on their faces and pretty soon you will be smiling too.
It all starts with YOU. No one else. So don’t wait for someone else to make it happen, you are going to wait a long time. Remember, the choices you make define you. So if you are making bad choices, don’t be surprised that nothing is going the way it should. Make the right choices – move in the right circles – go in the right direction – you need to be happy and content with yourself and your life. Make it happen!
Get your energy levels up – turn up the heat
Love yourself and be grateful for everything you have in your life right now. Learn to forgive (and forget) and laugh at the mistakes you make along the way. They are not fatal. Many a wealthy man/woman today has made many mistakes – they just carried on till they got it right.
Feel that enthusiasm each and every day for your vision, as if it has already happened. Stay open for the remarkable to take place. And it will!
When I talk about the work I do, the deep desire I have to help others and share my experiences, I bubble, I smile, my whole body tingles all over – I am excited – I am happy – I am confident – I believe in what I am doing – I feel freaking amazing! (And yes I am smiling as I am writing this to you).
“There are two ways of living your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle; the other is as though everything is a miracle” – Albert Einstein
How are you living your life? Life itself is a miracle, don’t you agree? If you are not seeing your life as a miracle, wake up! Smell the roses! Look around you! Look in the mirror – YOU are a miracle. YOU are unique. YOU are special. YOU are one of a kind. Be proud!
Surround yourself with positive people
Like attracts like. Enthusiasm rubs off on you – it is infectious, just like a smile. At the very least, spend time with people who are supportive and for you, people who make you smile, people who make you happy. Enrich yourself by getting to know others who are actively creating the best for themselves – learn from them.
They say you are associated by the company you attract and keep. They also say treat others as you would have done unto you. Well, why don’t you treat others as they would like to be treated. The wheel turns – what goes around, comes around. What are you attracting? What are you giving out? What are you radiating?
Clean out the clutter
Clean out. You will feel liberated and free. What is holding you back from going for your dream? What is your fear? What baggage are you carrying within yourself that is holding you back? Get rid of it. Let it go. Lighten the load so that you can move forward with ease.
Get organised for success
Find ways of dealing with what is necessary in your life so you don’t get distracted. Only agree to what you will or can actually do. Learn to say NO.
I know of someone who just can’t say NO yet they complain about how unhappy they are and blame the person they can’t say no to and everyone else around them. You only have to say it once. And mean it.
Don’t limit yourself
Go beyond your limit. Do more. Stretch yourself. Learn to live in the present moment. Some times you will need to hold back and other times, you go forward. There will also be times when you need to speak and then times when you need to be quiet. As time goes on you will know which is which at the right time and the right moment.
Use your time wisely. It is amazing what you can do when you just let yourself go and do it. No holding back.
Believe in yourself, believe in your vision
Don’t doubt yourself. You have a dream, you have a vision – it remains a dream until you actually do something about it. Make it a reality – make it a goal and work towards it. YOU can do it!
Look after yourself – take care of yourself. Eat foods that are good for your body, drink plenty of water, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, make time to have fun and relax – stay focused on your vision. Taking care of yourself is a wise investment of your time and attention.
YOU have the power to choose who you want to be. Be the greatest, grandest and the best you can be.